From Jenny Block, author of O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm.
Jenny Block is a lifestyle writer and the author of O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm, so we decided to hit her up for some tips.
"Sex should be fun and silly and exciting and experimental and messy and loud and always an adventure. It should go where it goes for as long as you like in whatever way you like," she told BuzzFeed.
"Sex is not putting a penis in a vagina. That is one sex act of many. It’s not the main one or the primary one or the most important one. It’s just one. We have to stop having procreative sex for recreation if we can ever going to maximize our orgasm potential."
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Masturbation is the best way to figure out your sexual preferences.
"First of all, know that masturbating is an excellent idea. Seriously. It is excellent. It's safe and fun and insanely good for you. Orgasm is known to relieve pain and stress and insomnia and to make you feel generally all warm and fuzzy.
If this is your first time at bat, not to worry. The best part of masturbation is that you don't have to impress anyone and it's basically impossible to do it wrong. All you have to do is what feels good. So get comfy somewhere where you're unlikely to get caught (unless that turns you on, of course!) Get yourself some inspirational materials if you like – porn to watch or erotica to read."
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If you're starting to masturbate for the first time, don't put pressure on yourself to orgasm.
"Take your time. Let your hands wander where they may until you feel relaxed and ready to focus on the main event. Then just do what feels good. Rubbing, stroking, patting, tugging, tickling, petting, penetrating, slapping, or a combination perhaps. You might want to try a vibrator (for women) or a masturbation sleeve (for men).
Whatever you do, don't focus too much on orgasm, especially if this is the first time. Masturbation, just like sex, should be pleasure oriented, not goal oriented. The only goal should be to enjoy and to learn what works for you. Then you can share with a partner what you've learned and really get to discovering your ultimate orgasm."
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